Friday Devotional: Wisdom in surrounding yourself with community and mentors

15 Byline Hoyt

Proverbs 1:5 “A wise man will hear and increase in learning, and a man of understanding will acquire wise counsel.”

The book of Proverbs is full of incredible verses on wisdom and discernment. There are so many in the 31 chapters that this entire devotional could just be verses.

Jesus had a brotherhood of 12 disciples and within that he had three that he was even closer to. We would be wise to do the same. Maybe not exactly in number, but principle is to look for a contingent of men who you can depend on.

What are some characteristics we should look for in those men? Jesus had the advantage of knowing their hearts. From what I read about the 12 disciples, Jesus chose men who he knew had a few things in common. These were humble men. These were men who were willing to leave everything they had and their families and follow Jesus. These men had deep faith in Jesus.

The entire purpose of BYX is to create brotherhood and unity among the common bond of Jesus Christ. The bond that unites us as men is a common belief in Christ. It allows BYX to be a really safe place for brothers to struggle through their sin and temptations in college with one another in pursuit of deeper community with Christ and our brothers. Consider both humility and passion for Christ when looking for your close-knit community of brothers to run with.

“A gray head is a crown of glory; It is found in the way of righteousness.” Proverbs 16:31.

Young men would be wise to seek the counsel of older men. There is much wisdom in walking with older men who have been more seasoned by life. These are men we can seek counsel from on bigger life decisions such as “What should I study?” “Should I date this girl?” “Should I marry this girl?” “Should I take this job?”

These are big questions, and young men would benefit from seeking wise counsel from older men who have made these types of decisions before. I would recommend looking for a least one older man who is at least one life stage ahead of where you are. It can certainly be more than one life stage ahead of you, but at least one.

“A man of too many friends comes to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.” Proverbs 18:24

This proverb gives you a warning on choosing your friends. Be careful who you surround yourself with. Make sure their priorities are lined up with your priorities in seeking first the Kingdom of God. If and when you find those brothers that demonstrate humility and are seeking Christ, you will find the life long brotherhood in which BYX strives to achieve. You will be a blessed man.


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