Bleed For Your Men

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National Advisor
As men, we have a high calling towards leading others and serving our brothers in humility. As sinners, our default is to shy away from leadership or to do so in a way that exalts ourselves, not Jesus. 

“So if there is any encouragement in Christ, any comfort from love, any participation in the Spirit, any affection and sympathy, complete my joy by being of the same mind, having the same love, being in full accord and of one mind. Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also the interests of others.” (Philippians 2:1-4)


Your pledge semester will be filled with great memories and the forging of life-long friendships. Through this time you will learn about BYX and what it means to be a committed brother. Here are a few thoughts about how to use your pledge semester wisely.

1. Respect

As a pledge, you have the honor of falling under the tutelage of many great brothers. They have gone through pledgeship just like you and are now charged to serve the brotherhood. In this, they should model for you what it looks like to be a committed brother. Find the brothers who set the bar high and ask them to pour into you. Reciprocate with your big bro and look for opportunities to fellowship with him. While he should initiate this with you, be quick to invite him into your life. Above all, respect those members who are worthy of it. Allow them to serve you. When you are initiated, you will earn the right to serve others.

2. Pledge Class

The men in your pledge class will be among the greatest friends you will ever have. Enjoy your pledge semester and the time you have with them. Look for ways you can serve your pledge brothers. Be the pledge who shows commitment in every activity and encourage your pledge brothers to do the same. You may not enjoy study hall, but your attitude about it can greatly affect the rest of your pledge class. Be the encouragement you know your pledge brothers need. Lastly, never forsake and opportunity to grow a friendship. Welcome the late night conversations and trips to Waffle House. These will be some wonderful memories for years to come. However, when these opportunities come along, use them to make much of Jesus.

3. Zeal

There is a lot of excitement during this time of college. For the first time in your life you have a blank slate. Things are new. You are understanding your identity and seeking the Christ’s guidance for your life. There is a fiery passion in your heart. Cultivate that fire. Never quench the zeal you have for Christ and for BYX. Don’t apologize for telling others about how much you are enjoying pledgeship. Use your zeal to fuel your commitment to BYX in everything you do. And most importantly, use your zeal to bring glory to God.


As a brother you have been initiated and thus have earned the right to serve. This is a high calling and one that is not to be taken lightly. Now that you have been granted entrance into our brotherhood, do not squander what you have been blessed with.

1. Set The Bar High

Your influence in your chapter is greater than you realize and this is for better or worse. The worst approach you can take is by not doing anything. If you want to set the bar low, show up late to chapter and leave as soon as it is over. Put up walls in cell group and be as transparent as a brick wall. Find ways to escape commitment to your little bro, brotherhood retreats and service projects. And if you attend date parties at all, be the guy whom you would have been ashamed of as a pledge.

However, if you’re going to go through BYX in this way, do everyone a favor and go inactive.

If you truly desire to set the bar high, be the guy who shows up early to everything. Maybe you enjoy helping set up or maybe you just want to catch up with guys you don’t get to see throughout the week. When you’re at cell group, walk in transparency and subsequently confession and repentance with your brothers. Be the guy who is the life of the party and exalts Christ in doing so. Remember, all the world’s a stage. Set the standard for other brothers and for the pledges. Your voice is more powerful than you realize. Use it for God’s glory.

2. Fellowship

Your time in BYX will perhaps be the greatest fellowship you ever have with other men. Take advantage of this and pour into other men. Start with your little bro. You are the only big they will ever have. It is impossible to pour into your little bro too much. Seek him out as much as you can. Invite him into your life for lunch, for a movie, to go camping and in these things make much of Jesus. When it comes to the rest of the brothers, look for men to fellowship with constantly. Then look for ways to serve them. Christ has equipped you with spiritual gifts. Use them.

3. Seniors

The temptation for many seniors is to spend time only with their fellow upperclassmen. This is a brilliant tool which Satan uses to breed immaturity in a chapter. In Isaiah, God’s judgment is enacted upon Judah and Jerusalem first by His removal of support of bread and water. Isaiah 3:1 quickly proclaims this famine and the next 11 verses describe God’s judgment in removing the men from Judah. This is perhaps the worst famine God could curse a nation with. God describes boys becoming princes and infants ruling over people. He talks about men being made rulers for no other quality than the clothing they own.

The image portrayed here should strike fear in our hearts, but at the end of the day this picture is oddly familiar. From politics to Hollywood, we are led and influenced by men who do not possess any actual leadership. Many arrived where they are because of anything but honorable qualities. As a senior, don’t check out. You have not earned the right to spend your time exclusively with the men you pledged with. Pledges are looking to you to dictate what their involvement should look like. Juniors are looking to you to set the standard for how they will act as seniors. It is impossible for you not to communicate. Even your absence communicates your complacency. Be ever mindful for what and how you are communicating.


The way the men in your chapter bleed for one another is in direct correlation to how you serve your brothers. Do not underestimate how your words and actions set the stage for what this looks like in your chapter.

1. Humility

You have been elected by your brothers to lead. Do so humbly. You were not elected to lead because of any quality you have, but only those which come from Christ. Worship Him in this and lead your brothers in humility. You are no better man than they are. Remind yourself of this constantly. Guys will not relate to you because you are a gifted public speaker or a great organizer. They will follow you because you lead them humbly and push them to Christ.

2. Lunches

How often are you grabbing lunch with other brothers in your chapter? What about pledges? You have 21 meals a week. It is not too much to ask that 7 of those are spent with BYX guys. That still gives you two thirds of your meals to eat with whomever you want. And don’t just grab lunch with your best buddies. Seek out the men whom you don’t talk to all that often. Seek out men whom you used to be closer to. Seek out men whom you may not get along with. Seek out men who think differently than you. Seek out men who socialize in different circles than you. Then grab lunch with them for no other reason than to hear what the Lord is doing in their lives. Give them a platform to confide in you and tell you what they think about BYX. Then confide in your brother. Tell them what you’ve repented of recently. Talk about your relationship with your girlfriend. Show them what the Lord is revealing to you in Scripture. Be their brother!

Can you imagine what BYX would look like if guys devoted even 4 meals a week to other brothers? One meal to their little bro, one to a different guy in their cell group and two meals to men they don’t always talk to? But as an officer I’m not asking you to grab 4 meals a week, I’m asking you to grab 7. And by the way, you can make your lunch and meet at the union. Grabbing a meal together doesn’t mean you’re eating out every time.

In the New Testament, there are over 40 instances where Scriptures lays out guidelines for us to interact with one another. 1 Corinthians 11:33 is an interesting example because out of all of the “one anothers” it assumes you are always eating with others. The rest provide parameters for your interactions. This one assumes you are.

3. Prayer

The primary way you bleed for your brothers is through prayer. If you expect God to move mightily in your chapter, this is done through prayer and your prayers above all others. How can you expect others to contend for your chapter before God if you aren’t doing it yourself?

Go before Christ and confess sin in your leadership. Confess overarching sin that your chapter struggles with and allow Him to search your heart for the same. Praise Him in adoration for no other reason than He is holy! Worship Him for blessing us with such a wonderful brotherhood. Thank Him for the men He has sovereignly placed in your life. Then ask Him to move mightily amongst your brothers. Ask Him to unify your chapter, move men towards confession and repentance and finally use BYX for His glory on your campus. If you want your men to bleed for each other, you must first bleed for them through prayer.

“Have this mind among yourselves, which is yours in Christ Jesus, who, though he was in the form of God, did not count equality a thing to be grasped, but emptied himself, by taking the form of a servant, being born in the likeness of men. And being found in human form, he humbled himself by becoming obedient to the point of death, even death on a cross.” (Philippians 2:4-8)


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